I must confess to being a bit confused by P Kelly's letter in The Weekend Sun (March 22).

So Jacinda wore a head scarf when visiting the Muslim community. Seems to me that, under the circumstances, this was no more than a polite and respectful thing to do.

There has been comment about the Crusaders changing their name, but I don't recall reading or hearing that the Muslim community suggested doing this, nor that they are offended by the name.

If P Kelly had ever visited the war-torn and repressive countries that many of our refugees have escaped from, he/she would understand why they wanted to come here.

Having legally got here, the majority speak English (or are learning) and go to work, while their kids go to school and get involved with sports. They go to church, just as a large number of the rest of us do, and contribute to their local communities. Would P. Kelly care to enlighten me? What more do they need to do in terms of adapting to the New Zealand way of life?

My family were European refugees from a country occupied by communist Russia, so I wonder whether I also, need to do some adaptation that I don't yet know about to be a 'real” New Zealander.

R Tomson, Hairini (abridged).