Local men are being asked to think about what kind of guy they wanna be? And what they value? This challenge comes from White Ribbon's campaign promoting respectful relationships. Most men do not use violence towards women because they value fairness and respect. Strengthening the respectful values, and behaviour, of all men will make your community safer for women and children. And men will have more satisfying relationships. Respectful relationships are based on everyone being treated as equals, and effective nonviolent communication. Men can learn how to do this, and White Ribbon provides a toolbox for men on how to have respectful relationships. There's another for young men – ‘Start With Respect'. And this year White Ribbon is providing advice for dads on how to grow respectful sons. All available at: whiteribbon.org.nz Respect is the behaviour we want instead of using violence. It makes your community safer and happier. Let's practise this 365 days a year.

C Ronald, White Ribbon Committee chairperson.