Feeling sorry for an action done a long time ago is okay, dwelling on it is not. It stops you in your day to day progress without you even realising it. To let go is to look at what, if any, damage was done. Nine times out of 10 it’s long forgotten by others, and sometimes it’s the trivial that upsets us the most. Replace the memory with thoughts of today.

Pressure, what pressure? You thrive on pressure, or so you thought! You have wound yourself up so tight that when you uncoil you will be in need of a friend to listen to you, so you can dump your garbage, then take a deep breath and carry on. Learn to let go. Don’t carry things around with you that are useless, try to mentally dump at the end of the day.

There is something you have been wanting for a long time, and when it’s in your sights something happens that there are other priorities. This week make a promise to yourself that you will get whatever it is that you crave. The reward will be sweet, then you can carry on to the next desire on your list.

There are times when you are a very responsible person and other times you just go haywire, not thinking through to the consequences. Don’t stress, this is part of who you are. Don’t feel guilty, don’t worry that you may have offended someone, just be you. Anyway you can’t actually control it as you are a spontaneous person.

Don’t let friends or colleagues suck you in. You are a strong personality and you make decisions on exactly how you see things, not as others do. There is someone who needs a hand. They’ve made a mistake and you are the best person to help them make amends, so give a little of your time and help them come to a decision that’s their own, you’ve just put some icing on top.

Winter is not your happy place, and you physically slow down along with other grumps and moans. Change it this year, don’t succumb to the blues. Get out there and enjoy the season. Look for beauty, not dullness. Rug up warm and enjoy the cold and the food, all the steamy lovely aroma that warms the soul along with the stomach. Yes, it can be that good.

You hate your time being wasted, yet if you look back over the last few weeks, it’s exactly what you have done to someone else. Now that you realise that, you will feel mortified and make amends where you can, and for that you deserve a pat on your back and praise will be forthcoming whether you believe you deserve it or not.

You want change? Then open yourself to it. Allow yourself to be a little vulnerable and see what happens. Sometimes wheels are put in motion that cannot be stopped so watch carefully what happens around you and grab with both hands the opportunity you feel you can cope with the best, and don’t stop there, keep looking.

There are times you have gone out, spent money, got home and wondered why on earth you bought what you did. This happens often, it’s as though you’re day dreaming. It’s time for a really strong self-talking to, as you cannot afford to keep doing this. You will shock yourself when you go through cupboards, drawers and wardrobes, then you may stop.

Wow. You have decided to take action. Well done, you have been sitting on the fence for far too long. It’s time you were heard. Families can be so impossibly thoughtless or over the top and suffocating. Speak your mind, be careful, don’t offend and make it short and sweet. You will win more friends than enemies, just remember you can’t please everyone.

Leave all your aches and groans at home this week, you need to be fresh and up to the minute with what’s going on around you. Come next weekend you can wallow in self-pity if you want (not that it will do much good) or say thank heavens that week’s over and it wasn’t as bad as you imagined. Treat yourself if you desire to.

Don’t tell yourself that your problems are trivial, because that will just give you a way to opt out and not sort things. It will take much effort for you to change how you feel, especially about yourself. You are so hard on yourself that you don’t see what others see. This is damaging to your self-esteem, so stop it now!