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with Jay Hart
Emotions across the country are running high as teenagers discover how they faired on their NCEA exams. Your teen may be feeling accomplished, discouraged, surprised, even shocked. So, what can you do?
Sit and discuss the results with your teen, or if you’re lucky enough, teens. Help them consider the papers where they tested particularly well. Ask them what they think they did in preparation for those exams, or throughout the year, that helped them achieve this result. This is a “best practice”. They may want to implement this strategy again this year.
After you’ve helped your teen dwell on what they have done particularly well, help them consider the papers where they did not test as well as they’d hoped. Ask them what they think they did to contribute to this undesirable result. Suggest they come up with a plan on how they could improve their scholastic habits throughout the year as well as their exam taking strategies.
Encourage your teen to focus on their own behaviour; what they did and what they can do. Spending too much time dwelling on the actions of others or events outside of their control could leave them discouraged.
Help your teen write their thoughts and strategies down and, where appropriate, post them up on their wall. Encouraging words as well as strategies for changing their scholastic and test taking behaviour should go up. This will help your teen process their feelings in a healthy way, so that they can quickly get back to enjoying their summer! It will also help them feel empowered and more in control of themselves and their world.
Remember that listening to and encouraging your teen is your vital role.
If you’re teen didn’t test particularly well in most of the papers, consider looking at whether they could have a disability you’ve yet to uncover. I was seventeen before we realised I have a visual disability!
Next year, you may also want to enrol your teen in an NCEA prep course.
And most importantly, remind them that those that work hard to achieve “merit” are the same that grow up to become CEOs and Prime Ministers. Because it’s ultimately about character and perseverance.